Forty Thoughts on Peaceful Living


Forty Thoughts on Peaceful Living



Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart.



1.    Everything is created twice, first in the mind and then in reality. So pay close attention to the thoughts you choose. They have a way of becoming real.


2.   There is absolutely nothing about your present circumstances that prevents you from making progress, one step at a time.


3.   Worry, and you get what you worry about. Work, and you get what you work for. It’s often just that simple.


4.   You can’t let one bad moment spoil a bunch of good ones. Don’t let the silly little dramas of each day get you down.


5.   Happiness is allowing yourself to be perfectly OK with ‘what is,’ rather than wishing for and worrying about ‘what is not.’  ‘What is’ is what’s supposed to be, or it would not be. The rest is just you, arguing with life.


6.   Frustration and stress come from the way you react, not the way things are. Adjust your attitude today, and the frustration and stress is gone.


7.   Be positive and smile right now, not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything.


8.   Lies only exist if you believe in them. The truth shall indeed set you free in the end. Whenever negativity creeps into your mind, ask yourself:  Is it true?  Can I be 100% certain that it’s true?


9.   No book is just one chapter. No chapter tells the whole story. No mistake defines who we are. Keep turning the pages that need to be turned.


10.  Remember, letting go isn’t about having the courage to release the past; it’s about having the wisdom and strength to embrace the present.


11.  The past has absolutely no power over the present moment. (Read The Untethered Soul.)


12.  No amount of regret changes the past. No amount of anxiety changes the future. But any amount of gratitude changes the present.


13.  Replace the phrase “I have to” with “I get to” whenever you catch yourself starting to complain. So many activities we complain about are things others wish they had the chance to do.


14.  The more beauty you find in someone else’s journey, the less you’ll want to compare it to your own.


15.  Feeling stuck is a FEELING, not a fact. So never assume that you’re stuck with the way things are. Life changes every second, and so can you.


16.  In almost every situation, a little more willingness to acknowledge that there may be something you do not know could change everything. Go somewhere new, and countless opportunities suddenly appear. Do something differently, and all sorts of great new possibilities spring up. Keep your mind quiet and peaceful, by keeping it open.


17.  Be careful about who you give the microphone and stage to in your life. Don’t just listen to the loudest voice. Listen to the truest one.


18.  The unhappiest people in this world are the people who care the most about what everyone else thinks.


19.  Saying yes to happiness and peace of mind means learning to say no to the people and things that hurt you. Be wise enough to ignore the needless negativity around you.


20.  When people undermine your dreams, predict your doom, or criticize you, remember, they’re telling you their story, not yours. (Read The Four Agreements.)


21.  The person you liked, loved or respected in the past, who treated you like dirt again and again, has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you in the present moment, but headaches and heartache.


22.  One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to agree with everyone, everyone doesn’t have to agree with us, and it’s perfectly OK.


23.  Be OK with walking away ... Rejection teaches you how to reject what’s not right for you.


24.  You have to accept that some chapters in our lives have to close without closure. There’s no point in losing yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.


25.  Everyone you meet can teach you something important. In fact, the people who are the most difficult to deal with can also be your most valuable teachers.


26.  Some life changes look negative and painful on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new and beautiful to emerge.


27.  Without letting go of thinking there’s somewhere better to be, or someone better to be, you’ll never relax with where you are and who you are.


28.  The curious paradox of life is that when you accept yourself just as you are, right where you are, only then can you change and grow.


29.  Take constructive criticism seriously, but not personally. Listen, and then operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.


30.  Sometimes your mind needs more time to accept what your heart already knows. Breathe. Be a witness, not a judge.


31.  Don’t run away from things; run toward them – the best way to move away from something negative is to move toward something positive. 


32.  If you’re being pulled in every direction by forces beyond your control, take time to realign yourself with what you value most in life. What is important in your life is what you decide is important. Nothing can overwhelm you unless you let it.


33.  True purpose has no time limit. True purpose has no deadline. Don’t worry and stress yourself out. Just do the one thing you can right now.


34.  Patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.


35.  Remember, “I don’t have time,” is really just another, perhaps politer, or perhaps naive, way of saying, “It’s not that important to me.”


36.  You cannot always wait for the perfect time, because there may be no such thing. 


37.  Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not here to scare you. They’re here to let you know that something is worth your while.


38.  Don’t let not knowing how it’ll end keep you from beginning. Uncertainty chases us out into the open where life’s true magic is waiting.


39.  Look at how far you’ve come. You have made progress. And now, imagine how far you can go.


40.  And finally ... Stop worrying so much about what’s in it for you every single second. If you’re making a positive contribution to others, there’s always something in it for you in the long run.

Masters of Non-Duality


Masters of Non-Duality


Western Masters of Non-Duality

Buddha at the Gas Pump


Nonduality.com: List of Teachers

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A Short List of Books for the Up and Coming

 

A Short List of Books for the Up and Coming

 

Some Written Works That May Help Get the Young up to Speed

 

 

The Prince by Machiavelli

 

The Art of War by Sun Tzu

 

Nineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell

 

Animal Farm by George Orwell

 

The True Believer by Eric Hoffer

 

Lord of the Flies by William Golding

 

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

 

Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

 

Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury

 

Earth Abides by George R. Stewart

 

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

 

Candide by Voltaire

 

Razor’s Edge by Somerset Maugham

 

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig

 

Zorba the Greek by Nikos Kazantzakis

 

Tom Jones by Henry Fielding

 

Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad

 

The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand

 

Dune by Frank Herbert

 

Watership Down by Richard Adams

 

The Lottery by Shirley Jackson

 

King Rat by James Clavell

 

Gormenghast by Mervyn Peake

 

The Wizard of Earthsea by Ursula K. Le Guin

 

The Godfather by Mario Puzo

 

Dandelion Wine by Ray Bradbury

 

Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand

 

Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert Heinlein

 

The Stranger by Albert Camus

 

The Myth of Sisyphus by Albert Camus

 

Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse

 

Demian by Hermann Hesse

 

Steppenwolf by Hermann Hesse

 

Narcissus and Goldmund by Hermann Hesse

 

Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life by Gail Sheehy

 

 

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A Short List of Books for the Up and Coming

Some Written Works That May Help Get the Young up to Speed

http://thestillnessbeforetime.com/ashortlistofbooksfortheupandcoming.pdf

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Alan Watts


Alan Watts


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Now it should be clear that eternal life is the realization that the present is the only reality, and that past and future can be distinguished from it in a conventional sense alone. The moment is the 'door of heaven,' the 'straight and narrow way that leadeth unto life,' because there is no room in it for the separate 'I' ... Eternal life is realized when the last trace of difference between 'I' and 'now' has vanished -- when there is just this 'now' and nothing else.


We must here make a clear distinction between belief and faith, because, in general practice, belief has come to mean a state of mind which is almost the opposite of faith. Belief, as I use the word here, is the insistence that the truth is what one would “lief” or wish it to be. The believer will open his mind to the truth on the condition that it fits in with his preconceived ideas and wishes. Faith, on the other hand, is an unreserved opening of the mind to the truth, whatever it may turn out to be. Faith has no preconceptions; it is a plunge into the unknown. Belief clings, but faith lets go. In this sense of the word, faith is the essential virtue of science, and likewise of any religion that is not self-deception.


The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.


Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.


So then, the relationship of self to other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.


But I'll tell you what hermits realize. If you go off into a far, far forest and get very quiet, you'll come to understand that you're connected with everything.


The ego is nothing other than the focus of conscious attention.


The reason we have poverty is that we have no imagination. There are a great many people accumulating what they think is vast wealth, but it's only money... they don't know how to enjoy it, because they have no imagination.


Technology is destructive only in the hands of people who do not realize that they are one and the same process as the universe.


How is it possible that a being with such sensitive jewels as the eyes, such enchanted musical instruments as the ears, and such fabulous arabesque of nerves as the brain can experience itself anything less than a god.


You are that vast thing that you see far, far off with great telescopes.


We identify in our experience a differentiation between what we do and what happens to us.


So what is discord at one level of your being is harmony at another level.


But to me nothing - the negative, the empty - is exceedingly powerful.


So the bodhisattva saves all beings, not by preaching sermons to them, but by showing them that they are delivered, they are liberated, by the act of not being able to stop changing.


And although our bodies are bounded with skin, and we can differentiate between outside and inside, they cannot exist except in a certain kind of natural environment.


To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don't grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float.


No valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living now.


We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain.


No work or love will flourish out of guilt, fear, or hollowness of heart, just as no valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living now.


Reality is only a Rorschach ink-blot, you know.


Omnipotence is not knowing how everything is done; it's just doing it.


But at any rate, the point is that God is what nobody admits to being, and everybody really is.


Unless one is able to live fully in the present, the future is a hoax.


Zen does not confuse spirituality with thinking about God while one is peeling potatoes. Zen spirituality is just to peel the potatoes.


A myth is an image in terms of which we try to make sense of the world.


And the attitude of faith is the very opposite of clinging to belief, of holding on.


Faith is a state of openness or trust.


What the devil is the point of surviving, going on living, when it's a drag? But you see, that's what people do.


The moralist is the person who tells people that they ought to be unselfish, when they still feel like egos, and his efforts are always and invariably futile.


Wars based on principle are far more destructive... the attacker will not destroy that which he is after.


In known history, nobody has had such capacity for altering the universe than the people of the United States of America. And nobody has gone about it in such an aggressive way.


Buddhism has in it no idea of there being a moral law laid down by some kind of cosmic lawgiver.


Religion is not a department of life; it is something that enters into the whole of it.


The style of God venerated in the church, mosque, or synagogue seems completely different from the style of the natural universe.


I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.


But the attitude of faith is to let go, and become open to truth, whatever it might turn out to be.


You and I are all as much continuous with the physical universe as a wave is continuous with the ocean.


You don't look out there for God, something in the sky, you look in you.


Things are as they are. Looking out into it the universe at night, we make no comparisons between right and wrong stars, nor between well and badly arranged constellations.


Saints need sinners.


Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.


I owe my solitude to other people.


In other words, a person who is fanatic in matters of religion, and clings to certain ideas about the nature of God and the universe, becomes a person who has no faith at all.


Some believe all that parents, tutors, and kindred believe. They take their principles by inheritance, and defend them as they would their estates, because they are born heirs to them.


But we try to pretend, you see, that the external world exists altogether independently of us.


The reason we want to go on and on is because we live in an impoverished present.


The religious idea of God cannot do full duty for the metaphysical infinity.


The myths underlying our culture and underlying our common sense have not taught us to feel identical with the universe, but only parts of it, only in it, only confronting it - aliens.


If you study the writings of the mystics, you will always find things in them that appear to be paradoxes, as in Zen, particularly.


The difficulty for most of us in the modern world is that the old-fashioned idea of God has become incredible or implausible.


Why Won't God Heal Amputees?


Why Won't God Heal Amputees?



Why Won't God Heal Amputees?
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God is Imaginary
http://godisimaginary.com/

How do we know that Christians are delusional?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HVuw1wEuaAQ&feature=player_embedded

10 questions that every intelligent Christian must answer
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The best optical illusion in the world!
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Proving that nobody can get into heaven
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Prove that Jesus is imaginary in less than 5 minutes
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Proving that God's Plan is impossible
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-nayP4v4xYg&NR=1

The Top 10 Reasons Why the Bible is Repulsive
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vkXOwBIRX7Y&NR=1

Why does every intelligent Christian disobey Jesus?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-slAgzJmdU&NR=1

Where did our universe come from? A guide for Christians
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Proving that the pope has never read the Bible
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J6b_vVNP4nM&NR=1

Proving that prayer is superstition
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BH0rFZIqo8A&NR=1

The Four Agreements


The Four Agreements



don Miguel Ruiz: Message to the World

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQeSJD1mBPM

 

Toltec Teachings of don Miguel and don Jose Luis Ruiz

http://miguelruiz.com/

 

The Four Agreements (don Miguel Ruiz)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PX90DZq2OLA

 

Don Miguel Ruiz about Human Mind

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKCWH4KT1Xc&NR=1



The Four Agreements



BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD

 

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

 

DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

 

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

 

DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

 

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

 

ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST


Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.



The Fifth Agreement



THE FIFTH AGREEMENT: DON'T BELIEVE ME, DON'T BELIEVE YOURSELF, AND DON'T BELIEVE ANYONE ELSE.

 

Don Miguel’s Fifth Agreement is excellent advice for seeing the world with new eyes and exposing the beliefs that don’t serve you: “Don’t believe me, don’t believe yourself, and don’t believe anyone else.”

 

 

Abbreviated Glossary

 

The Book of Law

 

Just as a government has a book of law that rules the society’s dream, our belief system is the Book of Law that rules our life. Whatever is in our Book of Law is our supreme truth. We base all of our judgments on this Book of Law, even if these judgments go against our own inner nature.

 

The Domestication of Humans

 

Humans are domesticated the same way we train a dog or other animal: through a system of punishment and reward. In human domestication, information from the outside dream is conveyed to the inside dream, creating our whole belief system, and teaching us how to be a human.

 

Dreaming

 

Dreaming is the main function of the mind, and the mind dreams twenty-four hours a day. When the brain is awake, there is a material frame that makes us perceive things in a linear way; when we go to sleep we do not have the frame and the dream has a tendency to change constantly.

 

The Dream of the Planet

 

Society’s dream, or the dream of the planet, is the collective dream of billions of personal dreams. Together these create a dream of a family, of a community, of a city, of a country, and finally a dream of all humanity. The dream of the planet includes all of society’s rules, beliefs, laws, religions, governments, schools, and social customs. In this dream it is normal for humans to suffer; fear is an important part of this dream.

 

The Image of Perfection

 

During domestication, we form an image of perfection to please other people to be good enough for them. But we are never perfect from this point of view, and so we begin to reject ourselves. The image of perfection is the reason we abuse ourselves; it is the reason we reject our own humanity. We also judge others according to our image of perfection, and they can never measure up to that ideal.

 

The Judge

 

The inner Judge uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do, everything we think, and everything we feel. Every time we do something that goes against the Book of Law, the Judge says we are guilty, we should be ashamed, and we need to be punished.

 

Mitote

 

The Toltec use this term to refer to the condition of the human mind. The mitote can be compared to a huge marketplace where thousands of people are talking at the same time, and nobody understands each other. The mitote is also like a fog that blinds us from seeing the truth.

 

The Parasite

 

The Toltec compare the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system to a Parasite that invades the human mind. The Parasite is a living being made of psychic or emotional energy. It can also be compared to a program that dreams through our mind and lives through our body. From the Toltec point of view, all humans who are domesticated are sick because we have a Parasite that thrives on the emotions that come from fear and suffering.

 

Personal Importance

 

During the period of our domestication, we learn to think we are responsible for everything: “Me, me, always me.” Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me.”

 

The Victim

 

The victim is the part of our mind that receives the judgments, and carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame. The Judge decrees, and the Victim suffers the guilt and punishment. The Victim is always crying, “Poor me” because of a deep sense of injustice: It doesn’t matter what the Victim does to please the Judge, it is never good enough.